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Is It Bad To Have Regrets?

“I have so many regrets” I said truthfully, but in a playful tone, while conversing with a group of acquaintances. 

“What? Whyy, noo, you shouldn’t have any regrets!” Replied one person.  

I understood what she meant but parting from this interaction I honestly thought, “What’s so bad about having regrets?” 

My standpoint is, you shouldn’t be full of regrets but having some and admitting to them is okay. It makes you human.  

What Are Regrets  

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Image Source: Alex Green on Pexels

Noun  

a feeling of sadness, repentance, or disappointment over something that has happened or been done. 

Regret is a negative emotion that occurs when a person believes his or her past actions or behaviors, if changed, may have achieved a better outcome. Regret is often closely associated with feelings of guilt and shame. 

GoodTherapy, 2015

What Does It Mean To Live A Life With No Regrets?  

People who strongly believe in living a life with no regrets tend to be ambitious and more prepared to face challenges. While that can be a commendable trait, sometimes people get carried away and end up hurting others. This is when “Live life with no regrets” suddenly turns into “Do whatever you want.” 

This is dangerous because if, for example, you are at a casual social gathering and end up partying too hard, it reflects badly on your manners and personality. Even at a more formal gathering, speaking harshly with no regrets when someone is expressing their opinion is disrespectful. The chances of you being invited again are not likely when you leave such an impression. 

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Image Source: Mauricio Mascaro on Pexels

At a workplace, if you behave with an extreme “live life with no regrets” mentality, you may become an obnoxious person for wanting to climb to the top, stepping on anyone who gets in your way, and not being thankful for the people that helped you. 

Everything in moderation:  

There’s nothing wrong with having “live life with no regrets” as your life motto, but there is such a thing as just the right amount of selfishness. Have fun for yourself without harming someone else. Demonstrating humility every now and then can be appreciated and a good show of character. 

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Image Source: Oleg Magni on Pexels

My Opinion  

It’s okay to have regrets. Admitting to your mistakes demonstrates empathy; that you understand how life works and you accept reality.  

Don’t be like this person: 

I know a friend of a friend who became unlikeable and untrustworthy because of their “live life with no regrets” attitude. They were known as a fun person to hang out with, however, when it came to serious situations, they acted carelessly. A friend of this person asked for relationship advice and they basically responded with “Who cares, that’s boring, that’s lame.” Because of this, plus other similar instances, this person’s friends talk about them behind their back, calling them immature.  

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Image Source: Yan Krukov on Pexels

It’s quite unfortunate because this person is aware that their friends think of them this way and they have to continue to act like it doesn’t hurt their feelings since they’re known to have that tough, selfish personality. Perhaps one day if this person tries to be serious and confront their friends about how they don’t like to be insulted behind their back, they won’t even be taken seriously the one time they ask to be. They’ll get a taste of their own medicine.  

Takeaways  

Balance is important when it comes to regrets. Don’t be too regretful because if it takes over your life, you’ll be afraid to do anything, scared of things not going your way, the consequences of your every action. On the other hand, if you don’t regret anything, sure you might believe that you’re living a life for yourself, but soon that’s all you’ll be, by yourself. Loneliness will approach when people avoid you because of your selfish behaviour.  

So what does the balance contain? Knowing how to have fun, having the attitude to conquer obstacles or take on challenges and being okay to handle whatever the results may be. Thinking of yourself but also being aware of your surroundings, and keeping good manners around people. Be moderately cautious of your words and actions.  

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Image Source: Alexander Suhorucov on Pexels

“Live life with no regrets” can apply to different parts of your life: Personal, work, studies. It’s not necessarily bad, it can lead you to accomplishments. It can also lead you to a mentality where you don’t dwell on sad moments for too long. You live and you learn. However, you also can’t let it get out of hand.  

We often believe we have full autonomy over our lives, yet we can’t control every single thing. Which is why our outlook is important.  

“To be successful is to be helpful, caring and constructive, to make everything and everyone you touch a little better.”

-Norman Vincent Peale 

Help yourself, but also help others, and the good will come back to you. Thanks for reading! 

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