In this blog, I’m going to be talking about ways that can help you start parting with expectations. First, let’s define the word. Expectation is what we believe the actions, words, results, by another individual, will be. A lot of times we confuse the word with hope. Hope is something you wish happens, that things will turn out the way you want but you don’t necessarily expect it to go that way.
With that being said, let’s talk about why you shouldn’t expect anything from anyone.
- It is exhausting. Imagine how discouraging it is to always be disappointed by another’s reaction to situations because you have fantasized already of the reaction that suits you.
- It’s unfair! We automatically assume something about another person; we think them predictable and not someone unique and different.
- You expect them to do what you would do in that situation. They are not mind readers! (Although it would be cool, and disturbing to read someone’s mind.) And they certainly aren’t YOU! I know, shocking.
- We unconsciously hurt ourselves. We have it all figured out in our imagination, preparing for the worst case scenario. A lot of times you make it even harder for yourself when you visualize the most terrible thing that can happen.
- Sometimes it helps us ignore how real life gets. Realism is a double-edged sword, but it is a fundamental part of life.
How to stop expecting? Just don’t, it’s not like living in your head is insufferable. Sorry, my pessimism took over. Seriously though, the best thing that can be done is to let everything unfold and then panic or get excited about it. When you start demanding people to meet your expectations they stop being people. They start being something that needs to be fixed thinking you will feel better, that this is the best for them. When you’re finished with your projects, having dehumanized every friend in the process, you turn the habit to yourself.
People aren’t perfect or terrible. Humans are unpredictable. Mysteriousness keeps things interesting, and is a torture for the control freaks like me. What I’m saying is that assumptions aren’t good for anyone. You have to have faith that everyone is doing their best and even if they aren’t, there’s nothing we can do about it. It’s their life. Besides, all this could turn into criticism, which is definitely something we want to avoid.
Yes, you can have your hopes and dreams, they don’t hurt anybody! However, expectations can lead as far as to prejudice, because of offending presumptions! When you Google the word’s definition, this is the result, “An idea that is taken to be true on the basis of probability.’’ Probability being the keyword people! Humans have different personalities, character, so as a result their responses to matters are going to be dissimilar. Now for my fellow bookworms, waiting for their runes, magical powers and a dark haired person with daddy issues and a mysterious past to show up, there is no salvation for us.
That’s the end of my lecture. Thank you once again for putting up with my Gen Z energy; I hope you found it helpful.
My name is Anastasia Antonopoulou, I am a Parting Stories writer and a singer/songwriter in my free time. I aspire to be an author, someone that will make a great change with their stories. I believe that if you don’t write what’s in your soul, you are not living. You simply exist. I enjoy everything bookish and adventurous.